Dissolving Conflict Consciously
As we move into what is probably the most "charged" season of the
year, here is a different perspective for dealing with conflict - not just
managing or resolving it.
The 7 keys taken from the 2018 5th Annual Mindful Leadership Summit* are
summarised as follows:
1. Be ready and willing, not just ready and wanting to dissolve conflict.
2. Identify who the conflict is with and what the conflict is about. What is
the issue? What is the evidence of the issue?
3. Operate "above the line" in a non-threatened, non-defensive,
non-triggered and non-reactive way.
4. What is the origin of the conflict? What is the perceived threat to our
approval, control or security?
5. Interrupt the cognitive emotive loop that engrains certain beliefs in any
conflict. When one believes something, it creates a physical reaction in the
body, which creates an emotional belief which becomes engrained attitudes.
6. Let go of the attachment to being right. See the situation as an ally and
opportunity to experience and face you own contractions.
7. Completion of steps 1-6 then allows both parties to come back to connection.
The simplicity of the model lies in the fact that the other party in the
conflict effectively only comes into play in step 7.
For all of us involved in conflict dissolution the 7 step method provides a new
and refreshing approach.
*Jim Dethmer, November 1-4 2018, Washington D.C
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